Genealogy

In a message dated 10/27/2001 11:57:31 AM Eastern Standard Time,
fredrump@earthlink.net writes:

She's gone and isn't reading any of this. She wasn't interested since
her genealogy did not come on a silver platter. She never saw the
post I made it was just for general interest. People like that don't
wish to learn anything and simply won't what they want and no ifs or
buts about it.

Fred

I would like to reprint Betty's letter (at the very bottom) for everyone to
once again read. It seems to me that she is writing "someone" a nice letter
and being very polite about unsubscribing. She realized that this list isn't
what she thought it should be and would like to unsubscribe. No where in the
letter has she asked anyone to do research for her. How many of you have
been on lists where someone continually sends the list an email that says
"unsubscribe" because they didn't realize the address to unsubscribe was
different (isn't the only difference in the correct address to subscribe or
unsubscribe the word request? If I'm wrong don't tear me apart). I think
this poor woman thought she was doing something nice and polite which is more
than I can say for some.

I have to say, Fred, that you sound vicious. You haven't given any helpful
criticism only out right attacks on this poor women. Couldn't you have just
write to her on or off the list, "Hey Betty if you want to unsubscribe send
an email to such and such an address."? I am also shocked at the support you
have received on this list. Haven't any of you made mistakes before? I make
several everyday. In fact, I encourage my child to try things, make
mistakes, and learn. This woman made a simple mistake and she's being ripped
apart. I laughed pretty hard when someone made the comment to Fred that he
must be a blast at a party. I pictured being at that party and crossing the
room to avoid a chronic complainer. Then the "Fred support" letters started
coming in and it scared me that this many people are this worked up. My
goodness, this is a hobby. It should be fun. Someone else made the comment
that in these times we should be more tolerant. Well, I agree with that but
also believe that in these times we should finally realize what is important
in life. Just ask my sister in law who just lost her brother in the plane
that hit the Pentagon if making a small mistake on an email list that has to
do with a hobby is important in life. I know what her answer would be.

I'm on many lists. Some much more active than this and others that hardly
have any mail. I have NEVER seen this poor of behavior in my life. Fred and
others you should be ashamed of yourself. I think you owe the list an
apology as well as one for Betty. And I will pray everyday that when I'm out
there driving the highways that I don't accidentally cut Fred off because
Lord only knows how he will react to that kind of mistake.

Below is Betty's letter. I think everyone should read this one more time and
reevaluate how they feel.

Dear Sir,
I joined your genealogy site, but have straight away received mail , written
in German, which has no bearing on my search for the Burmeister/Pepper line.
Several letters are lists from other people searching for their ancestors.
Because of this confusion, please UNSUBSCRIBE me from your list.
Betty Burmister

Kathy

I am as sympathetic as the next gal but if you don't give something a chance
you never know how good or bad it actually is. If she had wanted help she
would have hung on longer than 12 hours. The rest of you that think she
didnt know how to ask for help, etc.. need to go back and read the post. Im
sorry but the tact she used in her post was non-existent... a little tact
and friendliness goes a long way. Please stop jumping on this Fred person as
he didnt make any of this she made it herself. I'm sorry she left in such a
huff as she might have connected to me or you .. but someone that is that
quick to make a decision on geneology or whatever probably doesnt have much
more to share than what she pulled off any of those sites out there that
list the famiies correctly or incorrectly. would be more than happy to help
anyone needing and definitely requesting help .. that was not directly or
indirectly a plea for help just plain old fashioned rude ignorance.
Terri

Amen. Let's get on with it. I for one appreciate the German participation
(that's why I joined) and love the opportunity to be challenged by the
language difference. I am, however, now fearful that I might show ignorance
and be castigated. Let's not get to that point. Scott

This is really too silly to further respond to.

Just let me say that I was at a party yesterday. Had a great time as
did my friends. It happened to be the Octoberfest in Coral Cables
here in SW Florida. It was an 1 1/2 drive to get there but 50,000+
other people also think getting there for a good time is worth their
trouble. The big attraction this year was the Original Friesländer
band from Jever. It was quite a group and I hated to leave before
they stopped playing at midnight. I wonder who they get to come
over next year.

Fred